"Socially awkward."
If anyone ever fit the description,
it was me.
For years,
I barely had any friends.
By thirty,
the only people left in my phone
were two or three friends from grade school.
And I texted them maybe once every few months,
just to make sure they were still alive.
It's not like I didn't want new friends.
I did. Badly.
But the second I was face-to-face with
someone,
my mind went blank.
Eyes on the floor.
Mouth shut.
Cold sweat.
And that look on their face.
Confused, a little uncomfortable,
waiting for me to say something.
I hated that look
more than anything in the world.
So I stopped seeing people.
I just stayed home.
Yep.
By anyone's standards,
socially awkward. Certified.
Five Minutes
That Felt Like Hell
After years, I finally met up
with a friend from middle school.
He brought along a friend of his.
Someone I'd never met.
Then he got up to go to the bathroom.
Five minutes.
Dead silence at the table.
I kept fiddling with my water glass.
The other guy stared at his phone.
We barely said a word all night.
Needless to say, I never saw him again.
"Why are you so quiet?"
Every time I heard that,
it cut a little deeper.
I told myself: I can't keep living like this.
So I read every conversation book I could find.
Cover to cover.
Then I dragged myself to every meetup,
every mixer, trying it all out.
Did it work?
Nope. Not even a little.
Almost every one of those books said the same thing:
"Be a good listener."
I was already quiet. I had nothing to say.
And the advice was to listen more?
That's not a conversation.
That's just fading into the background.
They don't get
what it's like to be an introvert.
I didn't need tips on sounding more "polished."
I needed a way to break the awkward silence
and actually enjoy talking to people.
That's all.
So I started studying people instead.
I put the books down
and went out into the real world.
Meetups, classes, clubs.
I watched how people actually talked.
'How does that guy start a conversation?'
'When things go quiet, what does she bring up?'
'What do the people who keep the room going actually say?'
Stuff everyone else did without thinking,
I broke down like a math problem
and wrote down, one line at a time.
4 years went by like that.
4 Years Later
Now, no matter where I go or who I meet,
I can actually enjoy the conversation.
I made a formula for that.
These days I can walk into any meetup
without dreading who I'll meet.
Honestly? Talking to strangers is kind of fun now.
I've made friends I'll have for life.
And I'm dating someone I used to only dream about.
My personality didn't change.
I'm still an introvert.
Put me in a loud, high-energy crowd,
and I still want to sneak out halfway through.
Only one thing changed.
I learned how to
break the awkward silence.
Four years of figuring this out.
It's all in this book.
When I meet someone new
and just follow the formula,
the conversation flows.
Almost every time.
Just so we're clear,
don't expect a miracle.
You won't turn into an extrovert.
You won't become the life of the party, either.
But here's the one thing
I can promise you.
You'll know how to talk naturally,
one-on-one or in a small group.
That's where this works best,
because a lot less can go sideways.
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Why do people read
dozens of conversation books
and stay exactly the same?
Because they only know it in their heads.
For the words to actually come out,
you need your own story ready to go.
And that only happens once you write it down.
So I made this book
to be written in, not just read.
For every topic,
I show you the exact script I use.
Then there's space for yours.
I tell you what to write and in what order,
so the conversation doesn't die.
Once you fill in those blanks,
the words are already yours when you need them.
137 pages
300+ real conversation examples
36 blanks for your own scripts
Enough that you'll never run out of things to say,
whoever you're talking to.
Here's what's inside
- Ch. 1The One Reason Your Conversations Keep Dying
- Ch. 2"What Do I Even Say?" Starting a Conversation with Someone New
- Ch. 3Two Conversation Topics That Never Fail
- Ch. 4The Conversation Menu: What to Say When You've Run Out of Things to Say
- Ch. 5How to Turn Anyone Into Your Best Friend
- Ch. 6The Art of Captivating Conversation
- Ch. 7The First-Date Conversation Formula
- Ch. 8Become Someone People Trust, and the Introductions Follow
- +The Script Notebook: fill-in scripts for every topic
WHY THIS BOOK
So what makes
this one different?
Most conversation books
This book
Most conversation books
The advice
"Listen. Empathize." Great, unless you have nothing to say.
This book
The advice
Your first few lines are already mapped out, so you're not stuck staring at the floor.
Most conversation books
Written by
Mostly people who were never shy to begin with.
This book
Written by
An introvert who spent four years watching and taking notes on real conversations.
Most conversation books
How you use it
You nod along, close the book, and blank at the next party anyway.
This book
How you use it
36 blanks for your own stories. Write it once, and it's yours.
Most conversation books
What's inside
Principles and theory. Still no clue what to actually say.
This book
What's inside
300+ real conversation examples, in the order you'd actually use them.
This is for you if...
- 01 Your mind goes blank the second you're alone with someone new
- 02 You ask one question, and then you've got nothing
- 03 You're already thinking "What if it gets awkward?" before you leave the house
- 04 You've read the books, but nothing comes out when it counts
- 05 You want stuff you can use tomorrow, not theory
Before you buy
Q How do I get it?
Right after checkout, you'll land on the download page. We'll also send the download link to the email you entered.
Q Can I read it on my phone?
Yep. It's a PDF, so it works on your phone, tablet, or laptop. The Script Notebook is a Word file you can fill in with Word or Google Docs.
Q Is it mine to keep?
Forever. Download it once, and it's yours to keep.
Q Where do I write my scripts?
In the Script Notebook that comes with the book. Every exercise has its own page. Rather use pen and paper? Any notebook works fine.